Both my parents worked, which put me in the hands someone else before and after school. It was great. There were snacks, friends to play with, and the punishment if you got into trouble was never the horror that my mom or dad would have doled out.
Today reminded me that with all the horror stories of abuse at childcare centers and schools, or drunken bus drivers there are still some great people out there taking care of generations of children, and doing a damn good job at it. The dedicated crew at Berkeley’s Live Oak park are wonderful. Though the use the facility for rentals now, a few years ago it was teaming with children every weekday.
While growing up Marvin and Pat took care of not only me, but my brothers as well. They looked out for us, along with 30 plus other children, the kids who flocked to the basketball and tennis courts, and a slew of random stragglers. In the summer, Live Oak served as a pickup and drop-off location for summer camps, including Camp Winnarainbow and Camp Tuolumne. I remember the afterschool program at Live Oak was so coveted that my mother, along with dozens of other Berkeley moms, would arrive at 5 a.m. with lawn chairs to claim their child’s spot.
Marvin and Pat are still on site at Live Oak and remember almost every face, no matter if you are out for a walk or taking your own kids to the park. I was pleasantly surprised when Marvin asked about my mom, my brothers, and the boys from across the street (though they still show up to shoot hoops every weekend). After 30 years these two are still at it, using patience and eagle eyes to make sure nothing “goes down on the playground.”
A few days ago, Tishrei at Fruit of the Word wrote a post about superstitions in the world today. I commented on her post, mentioning an article I wrote years ago. Tishrei asked that I post the article written in 1997, so here it is. You can copy, print, and share this to your heart’s content. Please give reference to the source in this post in doing so.
Living the Truth…
Every day Christians take a witness stand for Christ to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Anxious to remain in the truth, we continually remember how Jesus suffered and died that we might have eternal life. Everything we do must be based on remembering what God has done for us.
As our lives testify about God’s truth and we grow in God’s word, we listen to Paul in Romans 12:1-2, “Therefore I appeal to you, fellow Christians, by the mercies of God, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God. In doing this, you will be worshiping in a spiritual way. Do not follow the pattern of this world, but let yourselves be transformed by a renewing of your minds so that you can test and be sure of what God wants, namely, what is good and pleasing and perfect.” [NET]
Remembering God’s great mercy leads to a spiritual worship that does not follow the pattern of this world, but in which God guides us to be holy and pleasing. We already are holy by the blood of Christ and we continually go to the cross, humbly receiving help to live holy lives out of reverence for God’s sacrificial love.
Our spiritual worship is not spending an hour in church every Sunday morning. It’s the way we live from day to day. It’s the way God’s word transforms us by renewing our minds to think and be the way God wants us to think and be.
We are transformed into living sacrifices — people putting God first in absolutely everything. As such, we need to know what honestly honors God’s love for us. So out of necessity, our goal becomes a daily study of God’s word, the Bible, which transforms our minds.
With that in mind, consider 2 Corinthians 6:17-18 quoting an Old Testament passage, “So come away from their company, and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord . . . Then I will welcome you, and I will be your Father, and you will be My sons and daughters . . .” [NET] God truly wants His children to be different from the world. The world needs to see us as transformed by God’s special love, separated from mindless, useless traditions that are remnants of our sinful past.
Like it or not, the world especially looks at our daily spiritual worship during Christmas, Easter, and Reformation celebrations. Many snicker saying, “See, Christians are not any different from us.” What in the world do they see?
For some Christians there is no “Christmas spirit” without a jolly “Ho-ho-ho” from the “real” Santa bringing gifts to all the good little boys and girls. Their Easter has no joy until an abundance of goodies from the good-hearted Easter Bunny has been found. Halloween involves a fascinatingly scary time for trick or treating and shivering wide-eyed over ghost and witch stories.
Have you ever considered that it is wrong for Christians to pretend that Santa and the Easter Bunny exist and that Halloween practices are innocent fun? Have you ever thought of how they dishonor God’s gift of grace and mock our relationship with the Lord Almighty?
If you have made statements to this effect, have your shocked listeners protested with: “Is this some new doctrine you have decided to promote on your own?” “The Bible doesn’t say anything about these matters. They are all in the category of adiaphora – neither harmful nor helpful.” “One can’t deny children the enjoyment of these special traditions, forcing them to be different from their peers.” “You don’t have a right to impose your personal opinions on anyone.”
Actually, the Bible has much to say concerning similar circumstances throughout history. Given a chance, God’s word can put things into perspective. From cover to cover the Bible warns us to not become involved in anything that leads away from God’s pure truth. God’s will is to have His children love truth and live totally in the truth.
Traditions surrounding Santa, the Easter Bunny, and Halloween center on myths. Webster’s definition of a myth is:
1. a traditional story of unknown authorship, ostensibly with a historical basis, but serving usually to explain some phenomenon of nature, the origin of man, or the customs, institutions, religious rites, etc. of a people; myth usually involves the exploits of gods and heroes
2. such stories collectively; mythology
3. any fictitious story of unscientific account, theory, belief, etc.
4. any imaginary person or thing spoken of as though existing.
The bare-bone facts are that throughout Biblical history God condemns idol worship. Idol worship is based on myths. God calls these myths lies in Isaiah 44:20. The chapter describes how a person carves idols of wood and uses some of that same wood for cooking fuel. Then God says about the idol carver, “He feeds on ashes, a deluded heart misleads him; he cannot save himself or say, ‘Is not this thing in my right hand a lie?’” [NIV]
Habakkuk 2:18 adds, “What good does it do to shape and carve an idol? It is a statue and a teacher of lies.” [Beck] God says that myths are lies that delude us into forgetting His marvelous love. Because our sinful nature finds so much delight in these lies, God warns us to put away all myths. Our Lord lovingly wants us to focus on His truth and gain real lasting joy.
On the basis of God’s word about myths, we can conclude with assurance that our beliefs regarding Santa, the Easter Bunny, and Halloween are not in the category of adiaphora – of things that are neither harmful nor helpful. They are all myths that God calls lies.
Many of Christianity’s first converts were Gentiles, former idol worshipers. The traditions and customs surrounding their idol worship were based on all sorts of myths. Some of the new Gentile Christians had difficulty in letting go of their past, wanting to mix their old customs with their new-found faith. The new Jewish Christians also had many traditions and myths that were not fit for children of God.
Guided by the Holy Spirit, Paul reprimanded those hanging onto any kind of myth or tradition. He would do this by urging Christians to remain in the truth, be strong in the truth, and stand up boldly for the truth. Regarding Jewish myths that centered on the Law, he instructed Timothy, “. . . order certain men not to teach any wrong doctrine nor to busy themselves with myths and endless genealogies that give rise to speculations rather than presenting God’s plan of salvation, which centers on faith.” [NET, 1 Timothy 1:3-4]
Our whole lives need to present God’s truth of salvation to the world around us. The world should never have to view a two-faced Christianity. We must be centered on faith in Jesus. Focusing on the wondrous salvation God freely gives renders the customs of the world as futile and meaningless. Similarly, being busy with myths detracts from the faith that should be a light to the world.
Every sort of myth raises speculations (especially in children) that do not glorify or praise God’s salvation. Along with raising foolish questions, they take people away from the truths found in God’s word, the Bible.
Although myths may be based on a fact, they are so far from the truth that they are actually twisted lies that bind people into superstitious beliefs, fears, and practices. As such, they are a tool of Satan to take people away from centering on faith in Christ’s redemptive work, away from truth.
Some seriously ask if putting away these myths shows a lack of understanding regarding freedom in Christ. Our freedom in Christ is based on God’s saving love and the faith He creates in our hearts. God’s love seeks to make us holy in truth. Myths do not seek holiness of any sort. Our gift of faith wants to live for God only — not for myths. Ours is a freedom from being enslaved to the sins and myths of the world. We are free to love God and neighbors. Love for God cancels any desire to follow myths.
We are free to eat whatever we please, free from the laws of tradition, free to worship in spirit. But we were not made free to love myths and desire them as an integral part of our heritage. Therefore, Paul says in 1 Corinthians 10:21-22, “You cannot drink the Lord’s cup and the cup of demons. You cannot share the table of the Lord and the table of demons. Or are we trying to make the Lord jealous? Are we stronger than He?”
So the reminder to put away myths is not some new law or doctrine but a description of what it means to have love and reverence for God. It is respecting God’s word as He tells us how to be holy — set apart from the world — His dear children.
In Matthew 15:19-20 Jesus teaches, ” . . . out of the heart come evil thoughts . . . lies . . . These are the things that make a person unclean . . .“ [NET] Clinging to the lies of myths makes us unclean in God’s sight. Embracing myths means giving up our freedom in Christ. Trading the truth for a myth makes a person unclean.
2 Corinthians 7:1 encourages us, “Therefore since we have these promises, dear friends, let us cleanse ourselves from everything that pollutes body and spirit, and let us continually do what is holy in the fear of God.” [NET] Christ cleanses us of all our sins and gives us a steady new spirit that needs to respond to His love by cleaning up our acts, appropriately honoring everything He has done for us.
Sadly, the way in which many people present these myths to their children puts them in the position of upholding lies as something precious and of declaring lies as truth. That makes the matter serious in the light of Revelation 21:27 which says of heaven, “And nothing unclean, and no one who does anything abominable and tells lies will ever come into it . . .” [NET] Revelation 22:15 adds, “Outside are . . . everyone who loves lies and tells them.” [NET] So we need to consider what we love and hold most important in life. Is it truth or myth?
Jeremiah 7:9-10 further clarifies this by saying, “What! Will you steal, murder, commit adultery, swear to lies, sacrifice to idols, and run after other gods you don’t know, and then come and stand before Me in this house that bears My name and say, ‘We are rescued!’ only to go on doing all these abominable things?” [Beck]
Remember, we are saved to become living sacrifices for God; saved to give up worthless living; saved to find joy and real freedom in Christ — the freedom to live as God’s children.
Paul warns us in 2 Timothy 4:3-4, “A time will come when people will not listen to sound teaching but, following their own desires, they will surround themselves more and more with teachers who say what they want to hear. They will refuse to listen to the truth and will turn to myths.” [NET] That has been happening throughout history. Even in our modern, sophisticated society, people love myths because they are exciting, interesting, and “fun”. They sigh and turn away from God’s truth because they don’t understand it.
Do the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus, as conjured by their advocates, ever honestly glorify God by adamantly pointing to the free salvation received through the blood and merit of Jesus Christ? Don’t they, instead, dominate seasons of celebrations that should be only worshiping Christ? Do Halloween customs teach us that we don’t have to fear evil because our loving, glorious Savior is God, the Almighty? Hardly, so we should not allow these myths to detract us from centering our faith on Jesus only.
In actuality, these myths promote greed, covetousness, and ungodliness. Although they feign to promote love and sharing, the pressures of these traditions often wrongfully obligate unwilling people to bind themselves to ungodly emulations for the sake of not being different. 2 Peter 2:19 tells us, “a man is a slave to whatever has mastered him.” Isn’t it much better to be a slave to Christ than a slave to myths?
Ephesians 4:15 teaches, “Rather, as we speak the truth with love, we will grow up into Him who is the Head.” [NET] Truth and love allow for growth in Jesus. Undoubtedly, all need to grow in Christ. As we yearn to be grown up in Christ, we must hold tightly to His truths in the Bible and honestly love them because they give us salvation.
1 Corinthians 13:6 instructs, “Love does not delight in wrongdoing but is happy with the truth.” Love for Jesus leads us to so rejoice in the truth that we know we aren’t missing a thing as we put away myths. Are these myths happy with truth? If they aren’t happy with truth, they aren’t built on love.
Our Lord says in John 8:31-32, “If you remain in My word, you are really My disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” [NET] In Christ, we are now free from superstition, free from myths, free from enslaving traditions — free to live for God. Let’s really delve into God’s word and live it so we may grow in the joyous Truth.
This concludes the article written in 1997. It is long — but so is eternity. This is something to be studied and considered a little at a time as we apply God’s word to our lives. Our eternal life depends on whether or not we want to live in the truth now. As we grasp how very important it is for us to have God in our hearts above everything else there is in this life, we will appreciate how deeply loved we are and say, “Hallelujah! My Lord, the truth of Your love for me is my greatest treasure. I gladly give up the falsehoods of this world, so that I may live eternally in Your glory.”
Love,
Margaret
A devotional to glorify the LORD of lords and King of kings…
The kids love the movie Cars. We had a busy morning of playing outside in the really, really cold (I was hoping to freeze Oliver into a nap, unsuccessfully), and this afternoon I had promised Hazel that we could watch a movie. It’s really hard to say no when she asks to “wotch a mooooooovie”.
I put on the movie, hoping that I’d be able to get some unpacking and organizing done, but Hazel said she wanted me to sit on the couch with her. I figured her attention span wouldn’t last too long, so I would sit with her for a couple of minutes and then when she got up to wander around, I’d get up and get to work.
But she just melted into me. She put her arms around me, lay her head on my chest, and said, “I love you, Mommy.”
So I watched her beautiful face while she watched Lightning McQueen, noticing her nearly-translucent skin, the way the light from the TV reflected in her eyes, how her face shape is so similar to Oliver’s, and just enjoyed the feel of my incredible daughter snuggled up with me to watch a movie. And I hoped it would never end, because one day she’s going to grow up, and I don’t know that I’m ever going to be ready for that to happen.
Remember the James Taylor Song? Showering people you love with love is awesome! It feels great to be the showerer and the showeree.
What happens when the way you choose to shower people isn’t exactly what feels good to them though?
Baby showers are a tradition in our culture. A time to gather together with people you love to celebrate the coming of your bundle of joy. A time to lavish attention and gifts on the mother and to help make sure that the newborn will have everything needed to be well equipped for life.
All of this is good, and sweet, and loving.
My wife and I have chosen to live a simple lifestyle for ourselves. We buy most of our clothes from second hand stores and we are very intentional about the things we buy, or more often, don’t buy. This is a process that we started four years ago and it is still a work in progress. It is work. The decisions we make are not always easy and there is usually some emotional wrestling that goes on particularly between me and the latest electronic gadget (read Kindle).
Shortly after announcing our pregnancy people began asking us what we needed. They wanted to help us and show us they loved us. We really appreciated it. We also became aware that the lifestyle we had chosen for ourselves and our family was on a direct collision course with the tradition of baby showers. We envisioned a house full of electric baby wipe warmers, two sets of baby monitors and even a baby jacuzzi! AHHHHHHHH!
Even scarier to us was the feeling that maybe we wanted all this stuff after all. Maybe we needed it. Maybe our baby would somehow feel deprived without it!
After much discussion between the two of us we decided that it would be far to easy to get off track about our lifestyle choices if we allowed the baby to be our excuse to consume. Now, how would we tell our friends and family that we did not want the traditional shower or shower gifts?
We told them the truth. The truth about our feelings, our lifestyle and out fears. It has been amazing.
We have received a crib, a bassinet, a dresser, a changing table, a high chair, a swing, a bouncer and several booster seat thingies, all used, all free to both us and the givers of the gifts, all given to us in love. We have so many onesies, sleep shirts and socks that we won’t need clothes for the better part of a year. Most of these items were given to us one at a time and informally. They are gifts that we will use with gratitude and then pass along to someone else who needs them when we are done.
We have received some new items; car seats, stroller and some gift cards to get last minute needs, but for the most part, we have gotten everything we need by re-using from friends.
Our family still wanted to give us a shower though. We found out how much our family was willing to support and respect our decisions about gifting. They gave us some blankets made by our young nieces, some clothes and a baby carrier that were duplicate gifts given to them during their baby showers (YEAH OPEN AND HONEST RE-GIFTING), and a blanket purchased in a consignment shop. It was wonderful to be able to celebrate our baby and the loving family we come from without giving in to the pressure to have a huge baby shower. We felt so loved by them, not just for the gifts but for respecting our wishes, for paying attention to who we are trying to be as a family and for supporting us in those decisions.
If you are finding yourself in a similar predicament, we can honestly say, tell people what you want and do not be afraid to be different. Suggest ways that they can shower you with love and still respect your lifestyle:
Encourage regifting for your shower
Suggest second hand and consignment shops
Let them know that you would be happy to use their retired baby furniture
One of my favorite sounds to hear is the deep laugh of my children. I am not talking about a chuckle or a nervous laugh. The laugh I adore is the deep belly laugh of surprise and joy; the sound that signifies that a wonderful and surprising discovery has just been made. This past weekend, Matt and I had the joy of hearing many of these laughs. During our recent trip to the children’s museum in Indianapolis, Indiana, our children entertained my husband and me with their laughter.
Great reviews and the Lionel train collection drove Matt and I to choose the children’s museum in Indianapolis as a day trip destination during our winter vacation. At first, our boys were not sure if they even wanted to visit the museum. However when we passed the huge dinosaurs in front of the museum, the boys were hooked. The first belly laughs surfaced as they peered at the giant dinosaur models peeking inside the museum. The laughing did not stop for quite awhile. They ran in excited circles around the vast train collections and layouts. In the Dinosphere, the boys pretended to be dinosaurs as they gazed at dinosaur fossils and habitats, including a “hands on” dinosaur nest with plush dinosaur eggs. It was hard to drag the boys away from many of the exhibits including the snow castle, the boats in the ScienceWorks exhibit, and the mock airplane in the Egypt exhibit. Even though the guys did not care for it, my favorite exhibit was the Barbie exhibit. After four and a half hours of exploring the museum, Matt and I were exhausted from keeping up with the boys. Yet, we had not even seen every exhibit in the museum! As we began our drive back to Kentucky, Matt and I contemplated if the price and time spent was worth the trip. At the Indianapolis Children’s Museum, our guys laughed, learned, and made wonderful memories with their parents. Yes, our money and time were well spent.
For more information on the Indianapolis Children’s Museum, visit their website: www.childrensmuseum.org
Sarah
ne of my new Twitter followers, @caseandpointtype, posted a Tumblr image called “Lite-Brite Type.” How does one resist anything related to Lite-Brite, that’s my question? Right. One does NOT resist such things. Rather, one clicks ferociously to the source. Which brought one/me to these gorgeously vibrant images over at Type Theory: Lite-Brite Type created by GrandArmy:
Kinda makes you wanna bust out your Lite-Brite and go to town, right? Yeah, me too.
A Charley reader sent word of this to me, prompting me to do my own searching. The disappearance of Martha Jean Lambert, a twelve-year-old girl who disappeared from Elkton, Florida in November 1985, has been closed although her body has never been found. Martha’s brother David, who was fourteen years old at the time, got into a fight with his sister and pushed her, and she fell back onto a piece of steel which punctured her skull (ew) and killed her. David panicked over what his parents might think, buried her in a shallow grave and kept his mouth shut for the next twenty-five years. The best article I can find about this is with the St. Augustine Record.
David made his confession in September, but it hasn’t been made public till now. The police looked for Martha’s body but couldn’t find it and don’t expect to, because the abandoned college where she was buried has been bulldozed and the area completely rebuilt. No charges will be filed against David, due to his age at the time and the fact that the statute of limitations for manslaughter has expired. The Lamberts’ father is dead, and their mom is still in denial, insisting that David could never have killed his sister.
This reminds me a lot of the Robert Mayotte case. He was about twelve, I think, and was missing for over ten years and presumed abducted. Then his friends finally admitted he’d died in an accident, I think a shooting accident, on the day he disappeared and they freaked out and hid his body. I don’t remember whether any charges were filed against them. Probably not. It’s a dreadful, horrible thing to try to hide it and make the missing child’s family wait and worry and wonder all those years, but I was suppose it’s better to come forward late than never.
Image by Getty Images via Daylife
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ne of my new Twitter followers, @caseandpointtype, posted a Tumblr image called “Lite-Brite Type.” How does one resist anything related to Lite-Brite, that’s my question? Right. One does NOT resist such things. Rather, one clicks ferociously to the source. Which brought one/me to these gorgeously vibrant images over at Type Theory: Lite-Brite Type created by GrandArmy:
